#MoralStory: The Dilemma of Love and Regret of Lifetime

She was a simple homely girl from a small town who had many dreams.  He was a simple guy with a successful career.  Fate brought them together, she fell in love and he accepted his feelings for her too.  She looked upon him as her everything.  He understood her more than anyone.  He wanted to provide everything that was good for her.  She wanted to do everything that can make him happy.

He wanted her to grow out of shadows of in-home life and become a self-dependent.  He wanted her to learn how to face the harsh reality of society and make a career, so if anything happens to him in future, she can survive.   He was constantly guiding her and often even scolded her when she made mistakes.  He was molding her for her own good.  She was getting a success and many guys were showing interest in her.  Oh did I mention she was a beautiful too!  She had a smile that can fill anyone’s heart.

As time passed, she became more confident and her career was reaching its peak. But he as always stood by her, always guiding her and continue to push her for more progress.  However, she was no longer liking him giving her advice.  She felt that she is more than capable to decide what to do.  He too was always working and differences started to grow.  She never understood why he was always pushing her for more and more.  But she started quarreling with him.  It grew.  She left him saying, “I am not the one to listen to you always, I can decide what’s best for me now, I am successful, there are many guys who will be more than happy to accept me as I am, If you do not like it, go to hell.”

He felt hurt.  He who loved her since she was a simple homely girl, failed to understand why would she think in such a negative manner about him.  He who always wanted her to be self-dependent, who felt proud each time she reached the new height of success, how can she say such things.  He left her saying,

“Perhaps the ego of your success has grown in your mind that you have failed to feel my feelings for you in your heart.  I loved you when you were a simple girl without a career or a success in your life.  My intention was always to encourage you, not to make you feel anything less.  Perhaps, failure is mine that after all the time we spent together, I couldn’t make you understand what you are for me and what I wished for you.  I wished only best for you, I wished you achieve more success than me.  I wished you do not make the same mistakes which I made.  That was the only reason I always guided you and scolded you.  May you find everything you ever wished for.”

He knew that both are made for each other, no one can make them happy as much as they can make each other. But, he had no words left to say as he was truly heart broken. She later realized it but, it was too late and had to end up living with the regret of a life time.

Moral:  Only those who care for you will try to show you the right path by guiding you or even being harsh occasionally – only because they want the best for you.  Think for a minute of your past and person who was part of your life then but not today, Where would you have been today if it was not for such person to be in your life?  Let go of ego and anger because eventually, it will cost us what could be the most valuable part of our life.



Now We Remain



We hold the death of the Lord deep in our hearts.
Living, now we remain with Jesus, the Christ.

1. Once we were people afraid, lost in the night.
Then by your cross we were saved.
Dead became living, life from your giving.

2. Something which we have known,
something we’ve touched, what we have seen with our eyes:
this we have heard, life giving Word.

3. He chose to give of himself, became our bread.
Broken that we might live. Love beyond love, pain for our pain.

4. We are in the presence of God. This is our call.
Now to become bread and wine: food for the hungry,
life for the weary,
for to live with the Lord, we must die with the Lord.


#ShortNews: Kenya’s bishops warn of famine

Some Kenyans are dying of hunger brought on by drought, the chairman of the Kenya Conference of Catholic Bishops said at a recent press conference.

Bishop Philip Anyolo spoke of “tales of suffering, desperation, hopelessness and in some cases, imminent loss of life,” Vatican Radio reported.

An estimated 2.7 million of the nation’s 46.8 million people are at risk of starvation, according to a BBC report.


#ShortNews: Pope lashes out at ‘corrupt’ global system, intolerance of foreigners

Pope Francis said that “no people is criminal and no religion is terrorist,” in a message to a California conference of popular movements.

“Christian terrorism does not exist, Jewish terrorism does not exist, and Muslim terrorism does not exist,” the Pope said. He explained his point: “There are fundamentalist and violent individuals in all peoples and religions—and with intolerant generalizations they become stronger because they feed on hate and xenophobia.”

In his address the Pope strongly endorsed the efforts by grassroots organizations to bring fundamental change to the world’s political and economic systems. He said that the global system today is “brutal” in its single-minded question for financial gain, and leaves many people by the wayside. The injustices of this system cannot continue, he said; “the system’s gangrene cannot be whitewashed forever because sooner or later the stench becomes too strong.”

The Pontiff charged that powerful interests preserve their status by encouraging fear of foreigners. Commenting on the parable of the Good Samaritan, he suggested that entrenched powers today are anxious to classify people as “neighbor” and “non-neighbor,” absolving themselves of their moral obligations toward those who are in need. He also said that corruption is widespread, and “the gutting of democracies is real.”

Pope Francis made these comments to a conference organizes by the Vatican’s dicastery for Integral Human Development and by the US bishops’ Catholic Campaign for Human Development, in association with an activist group, the National Network of People Improving Communities through Organizing (PICO).


Learning How to Love

Francis’ emphasis on action, practice, and lifestyle was revolutionary for its time, just as it is now. It is the foundation of Franciscan alternative orthodoxy. For Francis and Clare, Jesus became someone to actually imitate and not just to collectively worship. Believe it or not, this has hardly ever been the norm or practice of most Christians. We preferred Sunday morning worship services and arguing about how to conduct them or prohibiting each other from attending “heretical” church services. God must just cry.

The Franciscan School found a way to be both very traditional and very revolutionary at the same time by emphasizing practice over theory, or orthopraxy over orthodoxy. In general, the Franciscan tradition taught that love and action are more important than intellect or speculative truth. Love is the highest category for the Franciscan School (the goal), and we believe that authentic love is not possible without true inner freedom (contemplative practice helps with this), nor will love be real or tested unless we somehow live close to the disadvantaged (the method), who frankly teach us that we know very little about love.

Orthodoxy teaches us the theoretical importance of love; orthopraxy helps us learn how to love. To be honest, even my Franciscan seminary training did not teach me how to love. It taught me how to obey and conform, but not how to love. I’m still trying to learn how to love every day of my life. As we endeavor to put love into action, we come to realize that on our own, we are unable to obey Jesus’ command to “Love one another as I have loved you.” To love as Jesus loves, we must be connected to the Source of love. Franciscanism found that connection in solitude, silence, and some form of contemplative prayer. Contemplation quiets the monkey mind and teaches us emotional sobriety and psychological freedom from our addictions and attachments. Otherwise, most talk of “change of life” is largely an illusion and a pretense.

Early on, Francis found himself so attracted to contemplation, to living out in the caves and in nature, that he was not sure if he should dedicate his life to prayer or to action. So he asked Sister Clare and Brother Sylvester to spend some time in prayer about it and then come back and tell him what they thought he should do. After a few weeks, they both came back. Francis knelt down and put his arms out, prepared to do whatever they told him. They both, in perfect agreement, without having talked to one another, said Francis should not be solely a contemplative; nor should he only be active in ministry. Francis was to go back and forth between the two (much as Jesus did). Francis jumped up with great excitement and immediately went on the road with this new permission and freedom.

Before Francis, the “secular” priests worked with the people in the parishes and were considered “active.” Those who belonged to religious orders went off to monasteries and prayed. Francis found a way to do both. Thus Franciscans were called friars instead of monks. Francis took prayer on the road; in fact, prayer is what enabled him to sustain his life of love and service to others over the long haul, without becoming cynical or angry. Francis didn’t want a stable form of monastic life; he wanted us to mix with the world and to find God amidst its pain, confusion, and disorder. For me, that is still the greatest art form–to “dance while standing still”! So you see that 30 years ago, when I founded the Center for Action and Contemplation, I was just being a good Franciscan.

–by Fr Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditation



Saint Takayama Ukon

takayamaTakayama Ukon (also known as Dom Justo Takayama, the name he assumed when baptized) was born to be the heir and lord of Castle Sawa, in the Japanese province of Yamato, in 1552. His father, Lord Tomoteru, was a man of a deep religious mind, and had invited a Jesuit, Father Gaspare Di Lella, to his castle to debate the virtues of Buddhism and Christianity.

It was 1564, fifteen years after the first Portuguese ships arrived in Japan and, with them, some Jesuits from St. Francis Xavier’s missions. Impressed by the Jesuit’s preaching, Lord Tomoteru and his family converted to Catholicism, including 12 years old Takayama. Takayama Ukon took the baptismal name Dom Justo (Justo meaning Righteous) and he lived up to his name, while he was a prominent Samurai he did much to encourage the spreading of the faith, offering Christians protection in his lands and building many churches.

Takayama and his father, who was baptized as Darío, fought serving Lord Nobunaga, who granted them permission to be Kirishitan Daimyo, that is, Christian feudal lords, with the right to practice and spread their faith if they wanted to do so. Many of Takayama’s fellow samurai and serfs converted to Christianity.

However, in 1614, Nobunaga’s successor, Shogun Totoyomi Hideyoshi, the great unifier of Japan, prohibited Christianity and exiled the missionaries. Many Kirishitan Daimyo obeyed The Shogun’s orders and apostatized, but ‎Takayama refused to follow the great feudal lords and thus he decided to give up his properties, position, ‎social status, honor and respectability and was eventually forced into ‎exile.

With 300 other Japanese ‎Christians he fled to Manila where, just 40 days after his arrival, he fell ‎ill. His body had been weakened by years of malnutrition living in poverty and the trip just proved to be too much for him. He died on Feb. 4, 1615.‎  Pope Francis signed a decree on 21 January 2016 clearing Ukon’s way for Beatification as a martyr.